13 Attitudes to get rid of for a healthy and happy love relationship
Is
your relationship suffering and lacking peace and love? are you
wondering what may be the cause? check to see where you err and follow
the helpful instructions to get rid of frustration, suffering, and pain
for a happy and successful love relationship.
First things first,
you must first be sure if your relationship is worth fighting for. if
it is, then following these helpful tips is all you will need.
1. Jealousy
Jealousy
is a feeling of envy. You can only be jealous of something you wish to
have and that is because you don’t already have it. Everyone has the
tendency to be jealous, but how you control jealousy is all that matters
because it is capable of building or destroying you. You don’t have to
be a green-eyed monster in your relationship, it can only destroy your
happiness and that of your relationship. There are many ways of handling
such an issue in a relationship and here is one; for the sake of peace
which is a major driving force in every successful relationship, do take
a deep breath once you that awful feeling comes knocking at the door of
your sweet and peaceful heart. Do take a deep breath, ease out the
toxic feeling(s), remind yourself of how awesome you are, then
communicate peacefully with your spouse, it will really help.
2. Secrets
You
should avoid keeping secrets from your spouse, for your spouse is a
great part of you. Your spouse should understand you from the words on
your lips to the deepest part of your thoughts. If your partner finds it
difficult to understand you, make him or her understand you, keep
trying no matter how long it will take, for it is possible to accomplish
this.
3. Pride
Pride is a feeling of self-respect and
personal worth. We personally encourage self-love and respect though,
but this should not confuse you right now. In a relationship, there are
some of your rules you must bend or eliminate completely. Your
relationship with your dear one should not suffer so much for your
pride. Pride absolutely comes before a fall. If you truly love your
spouse, you should effortlessly see him or her as yourself, as your
spouse is a great part of you.
4. Nagging
Don’t nag in
your relationship, it will only frustrate you. You don’t have to worry
so much about anything, you will only succeed in destroying your peace
of mind and happiness and that of your lover. Nagging drives the whole
relationship to the mud, it is not necessary. Yes! It happens and most
times very difficult to be controlled, this is why you must cultivate
the habit of deep-breathing and self-appraisal, where you remind
yourself always that you are awesome and beautiful and should not be
associated with anger and grief.
5. Laziness
Maintaining
a healthy and happy relationship requires consistency in hard work.
Don’t say he’s mine or she’s mine already, you have to keep…. keeping up
on those things that got him attracted to you in the first place and
vice-versa. It is your responsibility to chat him or her up in the
morning, at noon, and before bedtime, for he is a part of you, and she
is your jewel. A lazy mind creates room for negative thinking.
Don’t
be lazy to do those sit-ups and squats every morning to burn your belly
fat and firm your butt (for the ladies). The feeling of gorgeousness
should be your priority at least for yourself. Don’t be lazy to make the
meal he likes; don’t be lazy to get your hair cleaned up at least once a
week; don’t ever be lazy to improve yourself in areas you find yourself
deficient.
6. Stinginess
Learn the art of giving. Don’t
always expect from your lover, always think of what he/she needs, and
what he/she will be happy to have. Surprise your partner with a wrapped
gift, it brings joy to the heart.
7. Bad influence
Don’t
ever mess with the power of “influence” especially “negative influence”
everyone above the age of 15, has the ability to differentiate good from
bad. You at this point can tell the impact and consequences of some
actions. Now, when you see those negative attitude(s) in a person, you
can definitely tell. Some people have the ability to filter the good
attitudes from a negative and socially unacceptable fellow but if you
know you cant, don’t mess with it, let it go because such influence will
only destroy you and your relationships. Remember, do not gamble with
the power of negative influence.
8. Negativity
Negative
thoughts beget negative actions. What you think in your heart is exactly
what your world gives back to you and in turn, find yourself into. How
about, thinking of yourself as a priceless and flawless princess that no
man will ever want to hurt. You might at this point think this is
bullshit but I want you to be careful with thinking that your man has so
many other girls out there that are apart from you. This feeling will
consume your happiness and worth, you somehow begin to see every girl
around him as his other lover, this makes you unnecessarily angry,
anxious and a nagging woman. When you put up these attitudes as a result
of negative thinking, you make your spouse uncomfortable and you put
him or her in an urgent quest for peace, love, care, and affection that
he/she cant get from you at the moment. Somehow, what you spent so much
time building up in your negative imagination, becomes a reality, an
awful reality.
9. Self-condemnation
When you condemn
yourself, you kill your strength and ability by yourself. You are
different from everybody else, there is a reason you are you, and they
are they. This ultimately brings us to “focus” focus on yourself, love
yourself, be happy with yourself, only then will you be able to build
and develop yourself. The secret here is, self-love and respect attract
love and respect from everybody in your life and in your world.
10. Greed
It
is an insatiable desire for wealth (personified as one of the deadly
sins.) greediness is exactly what makes a lover go astray in a love
relationship. You have something(s) in your spouse but you are not just
satisfied with it, you want more, therefore you seek for more. Maybe a
male friend of your lavishes material wealth on his woman and yours
don’t, maybe because he cant afford it or probably he is just too stingy
to do what your friend is known for. You should define your
relationship from the beginning, only then will you be sure of what you
want and will get from your relationship.
11. Selfishness
Don’t
be selfish with your lover, respect the feelings of your partner. There
is a reason he or she nags. Look beyond the angry face and hurtful
words, seek only to understand why your lover is unhappy and
uncomfortable. He or she might be seeking more attention or reassurance
of love and faithfulness but just don’t know how to state it. It is your
responsibility to search through those hot displays of unsatisfaction,
and carefully pick and pluck out the real fault. Don’t let those moments
frustrate you, don’t be lazy to find out what the real problem is and
don’t be fed up until the problem is solved.
12. Unforgiveness
Learn
to forgive your spouse when he/she offends you. Try as much as possible
to forgive and forget. It is never alright to bring up issues of the
past to tackle the present problem. Let the past remain in the past.
Never let issues remain unresolved for too long, it will only destroy
the peace and love in your relationship.
13. Lack of trust
learn
to trust your spouse, it boosts confidence and encourages love and
faithfulness in a relationship. don’t ever judge and compare your
present relationship to that of your past. always keep in mind that you
are dealing with a new person, study carefully to understand your lover
and don’t frustrate the peace of the relationship by comparing your
ex-lover to your new lover.
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